Do Better December 2016

10403387_10153084432873366_5861144938281823701_nFor those who have followed me for a while, you know that I dedicate December to doing the best I can in every area of my life, and I challenge others to do the same.  In the past, I have done this as a way to consciously counteract my tendency to get caught up in the drama of the holidays and forget who I want to be and how I want to live.  It also helps me overcome the procrastination and perfectionism this holiday season can bring.  With that in mind, I have been putting off the initial blog post for Where Karen Goes for some time now, and today seems like the perfect day to overcome the procrastination and perfectionism that has kept me from launching into this new adventure in my life.  Part of the hesitation is that I finally decided that writing and blogging is the profession I’ve want to follow, but I know I have so much to learn, not so much about the writing because I’ve been doing that for decades.  The fear comes from being out of the workforce for so long and worrying about my business ignorance.

The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know about the technology that fuels others’ success.  People who are the ages of my children astound me with what they think of as common knowledge, and I find it to be overwhelming at times.  In addition to the technology is the idea that you have to be in a niche to be successful.  I don’t feel like I fall into a niche.  I am married.  I am a mom of nearly all adult children.  I love food.  I love travel.  I love my family.  I have experience with ADHD both personally and as a parent. I have experience with a child and a spouse with medical needs beyond the norm.  I am creative.  I am a writer, author and blogger, and the thought of writing about just one of those things feels awful.  The one theme that does seem to run through everything I write is perspective.  It’s the one thing I’m always looking for, in all situations.  I savor the ones that bring me joy and strive to learn from and find the blessings in the ones that challenge me.  One of my favorite quotes is that change is inevitable but growth is optional, and I opt for growth whenever I can.

I believe in the goodness of human beings, but I understand that “good” is a very personal term.  I know what intolerance looks like from inside and out, and I am living testament of how people can change and be understanding and even loving toward people who don’t share their views.  I am not perfect, nor do I strive to be, although that pesky perfectionism does sneak into my life at times.  My goal is to be the best version of myself possible, to love as much as I can and to have as much fun as possible along the way.  I am not a fan of living each day as if it is your last because if I did that, I would never do laundry, clean my home or let my children or husband leave the house again.  Instead, I strive to live each day that if it were my last, I would leave a legacy of love and laughter with those I love most. 

I enjoy giving and receiving hugs.  I tell people I love them, and I mean it.  I believe in redemption and forgiveness and living as much as possible without regret.  I am a person of faith who honors those of different faiths because I believe there is more than one path to grace.  That doesn’t always jive with my own faith, but my faith also says not to judge others, so I do my best not to.  I am a woman.  I am white.  I am American, but most importantly, I am a global citizen.  I will rise up against injustice when I see it, but I’ve also learned, you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar, and I have never seen anyone change their mind when someone screams at them that they are wrong, stupid, ignorant or” less than” in any way.   Like most people, I am a mix of things I really like about myself and things I am striving to change.  It’s been one heck of a journey so far, and one I’m looking forward to continuing for a long time to come. So here we are on December 1st, 2016 as we dive into Do Better December.  My life is good but could be better.  I have challenges, but they could be worse, and I’ll share how I overcome some of those challenges as December goes on.  My days as a full time parent are ending soon, and my life as a writer and blogger is just beginning.  While some people feel like their life is over when they hit 50, 40 or some other random birthday, I feel like mine is gearing up for another amazing chapter.  I’ve loved my life as a full time parent, but I’m excited about the wonderful things ahead.  In the next month, my first child will graduate from college.  In the next year, I gain a new daughter in love, and I say a big WOOHOO to having another female in the family.  In the next two years, all of my children will have graduated high school, and God willing, within six years, all of my children will have college degrees and will be living on their own.  That’s me in a very big nutshell.  You may not know where the next adventure will be, but you can bet it will be interesting and filled with perspective.  In the meantime, thanks for joining me on the journey.  Thanks for being you and have a great day.

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